Protect your Inner Child

Oh I just love anything to do with children. They’re the magic little people of the world. The land of childhood, discovery and make believe is a truly wonderful, enchanted place and vital for every child. Creates our Beliefs, Worth and Worldview.

Vital for us all. We’re all just children in adult bodies. Our childhood shapes us. Our inner child plays a crucial part in in our lives, our futures and outcomes in life. Fabulous or faulty, happy or hurt, deep down the little tike is running the show. It’s our job to make sure our inner world is healthy, nourished and enriched.

Why & How?

You’ll often hear pro’s mention ‘unconscious self’ which refers to the vast, largely hidden portion of the human psyche that operates below the level of conscious awareness – containing memories, urges, feelings, and impulses that are not immediately available to the conscious mind. It’s a powerful, autonomous driver of bias and behavior, influencing decisions, emotional reactions, and personality. All depends on Soul-level, soul-lessons, infanthood, toddlership and early childhood, life experiences, societal/paradigm conditioning and trauma. Add to that the gaping hole in our reality – our whole Feminine Culture.

The way to ensure you operate in the most conscious and functional way possible is through personal development and life-long learning. Travel, reading, people, places, cultures, music, the Natural World – this journey called Life is amazing. Society may knock you around somewhat but the World is incredible. When humans have it all wrong, get back to nature.

An essential part of your Governance System is your inner child. Magic or miserable, safe or abandonned, fearful or free, needy or self-contained, it’s your duty to re-parent, nourish and nurture your inner child. Trick is to repair, reset and restore that which was not given to you and do it for yourself. Give the gems and add more over time. It shifts perspectives, opportunities and outcomes, raises your energetic vibe, (we are electro-magnetic beings), creates a safe, enchanted sanctuary for your inner child which in turn creates self-containment for yourself.

» Keep in mind our whole Feminine Culture, Matriarchy, was violently wiped out – hence humanity is wounded, in dis-ease & violence cycles, in turmoil, imbalanced and largely unconscious.

» Keep in mind I’ll share foundations and in-sights for you here which then lead to the Exercise. For best results, take 10x mins in your day and do it daily until it’s automatic and settled in.

» Keep in mind the Power of your Mind and visualisation. Be very selective about what you put in and around you. Good food, good peeps, good vibes and good shows/movies. Keep the crud out.

» You have the Power over your Peace. Those who believe in magic always find it.

» ‘Believe in the faeries who make dreams come true. Believe in the wonder of the stars and the moon. Believe in the magic from the faeries above, they dance on the flowers and sing songs of love. And if you just believe and always stay true, the faeries will be there to watch over you’ ¬ Old Celtic Proverb

01. Beware the Muggles!

The non-magic folk who scoff, belittle, punish, ridicule and ruin this vital, formative developmental stage of every child’s inner world and life. Be their gate keeper at all costs.

The first 5x years has the power to sadden or illuminate a child’s life forever.

Now I’d like to share a little something with you. It’s for everyone really but especially for those of you with broken wings. It’ll help you reconnect with and protect your inner child. It’s really powerful and an excellent, essential, starting place to heal from within. To get yourself back into balance and health. Most folks in the world today are wounded, damaged children in adult bodies. None of them in true adulthood, each walking around with issues, becoming parents, and passing shit on, generation after generation. And yes, whilst it’s all part and parcel of Lessons and Karma, (essential for our evolutionary process), the last 2x millennia of patriarchy has damaged humanity beyond belief. Yes, it’s time to progress, shift and uplift out of this paradigm and into the next. Yay! But first there’s work to be done to clear reversals, trauma and grief.

This is for the kids in the system. In poverty and the streets. In abuse, neglected and in harms way. This is for precious children in foster homes. This is for children without Mothers. This is just a beginning place. A magic place. Your secret place. That no-one can touch or damage.

» Note: as with all good things worth doing, it will take some time, introspection, elbow grease and commitment. It requires daily practice. And then it becomes automatic. Imagination is everything. So too is the Power of your Mind.

Pro tips:

This is just a Guide. Read it and make it your own. Enjoy it. Believe in magic and magic will find you. Pay it forward and the Universe will pay it back, precisely when you need it. Seriously, when you do the work, the ‘who and what’ you attract in your life shifts too. There’s nothing woo-woo about it. When you know better, you do better, you want better, you attract better. It’s that friggin simple. As old as the hills. The upgrade and uplevel of your life requires some elbow grease and introspection, with a professional. You only get out of life what you put into it.

It simply boils down to this: it’s your Soul/sole response-ability to shift out of unconscious, dysfunctional, dis-ease behaviours into conscious, functional, dis-ease free behaviours. It’s always your choice. Do the work and reap the rewards.

I hear it all the time: I want to live my best life! I’m manifesting it all! A better life/relationship/car/house/bank account, fill-in-the-blank. Bullshit. If you want an exceptional life, do the exceptional inner work to get there. You have to earn it. Your inner riches become your outer riches, to the moon and back.

Most people are wounded children in adult bodies. Makes sense you have to reconnect with your inner child. Because your childhood has shaped who you are, habits, beliefs and all.

Your experiences, ever since you were tiny, all play into shaping your mindset today. Take a look at your own childhood – which feelings did you have about nurture, nourishment and safety? Unmet needs are common place.

» The patriarchal version of parenting is atrocious! It’s an anti-Mothering system riddled with reversals, misinformation, separation techniques, syndromes, heartache, hardship and unmet needs. With well intentioned parents in the mix, doing the best they can. The damage is plain to see. Re-parenting is the key.

02. The Power of Visualisation

This exercise is all about caring for your Inner Child. It’s a small thing you can do for yourself that is part and parcel with Self Honour. No matter what, you must restore your own sense of honour in life. So much is taken away from us in this sick society. A dysfunctional society hell bent on normalising the abnormal. A wise person once said to me ‘always keep something in your left hand’. (Make a soft fist and place it against your stomach). Meaning always keep your inner magic place to yourself, for yourself. There’s a pure and precious part of your self, your Soul, that is to be left that way – pure, intact and guarded by you. Your Sanctuary. Get this right, filled to the brim with all beautiful things, an enchanted place – your inner child’s happy place – and restore your sense of self-containment.

» A lack of Self-containment is a vulnerable place to be and leads to seeking approval, love and needs externally, usually in all the wrong places, with other wounded folks. A lack of Soulful-containment is the underpinning of eating disorders.

» Beauty, Vitality, Heath, Balance and Success is an internal achievement first and foremost. Enrichment & Empowerment are the reward. The best way to attract all good things, is to fill yourself with all good things.

This exercise is especially important for those of you living with abandonment or estrangement. Those of you without parents, who had abusive parents, disengaged parents, well-meaning but clueless parents and all of the above. It is essential to assign blame where it belongs and then focus on the business of taking care of you. It’s vital you become your own ideal, healthy, functional, loving, parent.

→ Estrangement is Freedom. Dysfunctional parents will never parent you properly and have a hard time owning their shit, if ever. Drop the expectation and move on. Speaking the truth is not negative! Every dog must have his/her day. At some point they need to hear the impact they’ve had on you whether they like it or not. There’s no need to point fingers or be nasty about it. Write a letter or an email. Be truthful. Understand they’re doing whatever they can. Dysfunction travels from one generation to the next – same, same but different. The best revenge is tip top health and a successful life. And that’s another blog.

→ As with all Soulful, inner and therapeutic work, it’s essential to carve out undisturbed Honour Time. Even just 15x mins daily or an hour of prime time for yourself, weekly. Mute the phone and turn off distractions. Add up all the hours in a week and I know you’ll find spare time. Over time you’ll crave it and make it happen.

 » ps. I write in the feminine for a few reasons: for ease, honour and to heal the wounded feminine after 2x millennia of persecution and oppression. All Children of the Earth have been wounded in this hideous paradigm. My heart goes out to each and every boy too. But first, we have to heal the Women – the Mothers and the Nurturing Principle on the Planet, for the next generations. We cannot continue as we are.

03. The state of your Inner Child

No matter what has brought you here today or your life experiences, each and every one of us has an inner child in need of tender, loving, care (TLC). I know when I began this work, my little Amanda was afraid and alone and at first, I could not bear to be close to her. That soon changed with this daily exercise and what a difference it made for me in my life. So I ask you to take a moment to contemplate the state of your inner child. Alone. Traumatised. Afraid. Abandonned. Hyper vigilant. Hungry. Homeless. Fearfull. Sad. Grief stricken. In survival mode. Denial. Misheard. Misunderstood. Invalidated. Ridiculed. Criticised. Which state are they in? Pause and take a moment. Get real with yourself.

I know lot’s of adults, working adults, in all manner of ‘professions’ wearing a happy mask in complete inner turmoil and dysfunction. Making a right royal mess of their children. Who are working with our children. Traumatised children. Vulnerable children. (Cringe). Who need to pause and begin their own healing process! Because damaged children grow into damaged children in adult bodies. And damaged adults damage children. And so the cycle repeats.

» Here’s a nugget to think about: just because you’re an adult doesn’t mean you know best! Nugget number 2: Children are our Guests of Honour and are to be treated as such.

» Note this exercise is great for everyone, even teens. Each and every one of us has had a childhood. How was yours? Sadly, most folks don’t do the work. Too hard basket. All part of the problem. But you’re here! Give yourself a pat on the back. You’ll experience the difference.

04. Self-containment

Is a very powerful, vital and essential thing! All of which stems from your Mother – for the first 6x years. Unfortunately, genuine conscious mothering doesn’t exist anymore. And the government is raising children in institutions called daycare and school.

The best thing you can do, is do it for yourself at all costs. Your feelings are valid. All of them. This is the underpinning of true resilience. I’m fed up with this BS at the moment, especially in schools. Resilience is NOT an external thing or class.

→ It’s an internal layering and developing process over time during your childhood from infancy. It’s called being cared for and respected. It’s a baseline of Nature, Nurture and Nourishment. It’s having ALL of your Needs met with your in-tune Mother operating on Soul Level. It’s all ass about face in this patriarchal society. There’s major unlearning necessary. You’ll find more on this in my Academy. Program and Blogs. In the meantime, begin here with small steps for yourself. It’s an ongoing process and one I’ll teach very soon to fast track you.

→ Self containment is a Soul-full inner process. Nature based is always best. She restores your senses and sensibilities like nothing else. Get off social media. Get away from fucked up and fake. Get away from junk food and botox. As mentioned earlier, genuine self-containment is a very powerful thing. It’s easy to attain with inner child work, boundaries, core values, self-compassion and identifying feelings. It’s your duty to honour yourself and VIP your life. Get to it!

05. Out-rage-ous

If there’s one thing I’ll help you do around these parts, it’s to quit self-harming. This manifests in different ways for you all, from cutting, eating disorders to substance abuse, and much more. But the underpinnings are the same. Unmet needs! Pain. Fear. Abuse. Anxiety. Injustice. The list goes on. Each and every one of us as children will shift and manoeuvre and develop coping skills, faulty or not. As children we grasp at straws. Because we don’t have the maturity or ability to articulate, identify feelings or protect ourselves from big people. The system is fundamentally flawed and failing. Same with parents – well meaning or not. They can be well intentioned providers but clueless about everything else – our inner landscape.

» You will spend time recovering from your childhood. Do yourself a favour » make it out-rage instead of in-rage. Learn to turn your suppressed feelings, rage and anger into the motivational force it is » the Warrioress-code. Don’t ever let the bastards get you down. Keep in mind hurt people hurt people. Your shit is your own. Own it. You have no right to harm others. There are plenty of courses and avenues in this day and age to learn and vent. Ultimately, you owe it to yourself to VIP your life and kick ass. It’s women like us that once fully healed, will change the world. We’re a formidable force to be reckoned with. Don’t shrink to those who don’t know or understand. You can’t read this stuff from books. Folks who’ve never been through it don’t understand it. Onwards and upwards Sistar. Change and help is here.

Begin the exercise

In a comfortable position. Eyes closed. Visualise a gargantuan wall that spans the horizon, high and mighty. An ancient wooden wall, carved and engraved with symbols, hieroglyphs, planets, flowers and all things beautiful and awe inspiring from the Natural World and beyond. Pan across it and admire it with your minds eye.

Then notice a small secret door down on the left-hand side. Open it and enter to find a secret garden. One so splendid and magnificent. An enormous, endless, English country, style garden. Teaming with birds and butterflies, herbs and spices, food plants, fruit trees and statues. And as you walk through you come to a clearing and find your favourite animal lying down, relaxing, waiting for you. I found my Mumma Jaguar lying down licking her powerful paws, preening as all cats do. She is my protector. She is my safe place. I snuggle into her warm, soft, fluffy belly and lay down. This is the place where I rest and recover. The safe place where I restore my senses and sensibilities. This is my Rivendell.

My mission now is to call to my inner child. She’s my duty of care. She knows this place on a Soul level. No matter where I am in the physical world, when all is lost, confusing, exhausting, we can both come here.

At first, I see my little Amanda in the distance. (Visualise yourself as a child). We acknowledge each other. She’s been here a while without me. She’s barefoot in a little white and floral dress. Her hair is shoulder length, mousy brown, natural and wild. Her hazel eyes wide and glowing despite the loneliness (fill in the blank with your own feelings). She’s a Nature Spirit after all.

I greet her. I tell her I’ve finally arrived. This may take some time but I’ll always be here for you now. Stay with jaguar until I’m fully ready to hold you and protect you and play with you. For now all I can muster is to wink at you and blow you a kiss. I promise to do this daily. And grow.

For now, I’ll sit and admire you. Your eyelashes. Your freckles. Your mud pies. Your magic childlike qualities. Your curiosity and inquisitiveness. Your imagination, playfulness, and innocence. Your generosity and integrity. Your love and acceptance. Your excitement and wonder and laughter. Your antics that make me belly laugh and have the giggles. You remind me to live in the moment, cloud bust, and play. Or just sit. And concentrate, with the important business of making mud pies or learning about the world around you/me. To jump in puddles or dance in the rain. You remind me to put a smile on my dial. That no matter what, I am worthy of love and will get through this. And I’m going to do this every day. Little by little. Baby steps. Until we can hold hands. Until the day we can hug. Until the day I can hold you and tell you I love you, you special little girl. Until the day I remember that even super woman has a little girl within. Because together, we’re capable of great things.

And so, the next part of our journey: you must spend a week in my pocket. Or my purse. You are tiny and invisible to others. You come and hang with me during the day but return here every night. You can wave. You can poke your tongue out. You must poke your tongue to the undesirables. All children and animals are the best barometers with the eyes to see what most do not. Keep it always. It keeps us both in good stead.

Please know you are safe. And worthy. And amazing. And loved. When you doubt it, go to jaguar. Or stay in my pocket. When you need to cry or grieve. Go to jaguar. During introspection. Reflecting. Forgiving.

Go to jaguar. And call to me. I’ll find a time and a place to come here and be with you. I’ll make a time and place to be here. To do what we must to recover. Because I/we deserve to live a happy, fulfilling and rewarding life. We truly can achieve many, many, great things. I love you little one.

The End.

Key takeaways:

• You don’t get the family you want, you get the family you need
• You choose them on Soul level for your Chosen Life Assignment & Lessons
• Never underestimate the Power of Mind, Visualisation & Self-Compassion
• Never underestimate how much You can heal your life
• Place your inner child in Rivendell with your TLC and experience the difference
• It’s your sole responsibilty to program your mind or society will do it for you. (No thanks)
• Change is here – the Larger Cycles have shifted – get ready for the new Era of Oness, Unity & Peace.

‘Control your own destiny or someone else will’ ¬ Jack Welch

→ This song says it all: ‘We want your Soul’ by Adam Freeland here

→ Watch Koyaanisqatsi movie here. Koyaanisqatsi is Hopi word meaning ‘life out of balance, in turmoil.’

→ Watch ‘Lord of the Rings’ – it shows the story of the onset of patriarchy and loss of Spiritual Life.

From my heart to yours, please take the very best care of yourself. To your stellar success and well-being always. Peace, love and shine bright.

xx Amanda

Resources, Books & Links

→ I have a really easy empowerment resource to figure that out, which you can find here

→ You can read more on my Women’s Health Counselling with related blog post here

→ Enroll in my mini course B99, Boundaries for Women here

→ Join my (annual) Woman-lore Program wait list here

→ Access my eBooks on Amazon here

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