The Truth about Abuse + how to set Yourself Free

This blog is dedicated to every Woman and Child who have endured abuse on any and every level. It’s written from my heart to yours because your story is my story and that of countless others. So you can be your very own North Star.

Note: due to popular demand, I’m thrilled to announce this long tail blog has been turned into an eBook for you. Simply find the Buy Now and Download Link under the image.

It’s the Ultimate Starter Kit jam packed with tips, therapeutic strategies and wisdom gems to help you turn your life around. Designed to help you through the initial unsexy work so you can VIP your life. You’ll discover the very things you need in order to triumph are already inside you. This guide gives you practical tips you can implement today. No more hap-hazard self-care.

This Kit is the equivalent of the first few therapy sessions. Take the pain, cost and frustration out of your wait list. Take control of your mindset and well-being with these essential strategies and insights – out of chaos into calm. It’s my pleasure to show you how.

→ My Blogs are the main way I can serve you for free. You’ll find the first two chapters below for free. The Starter Kit is a simple download for $17 (USD). You’ll have it with you forever with easy access across all your devices. Enjoy!

Chapters One + Two

Setting the record straight

Firstly, always remember, abuse is doled by the weak, the twisted and evil and no-one on Earth has the right to do it. Secondly, no-one on the planet has the right to touch you or invade your body space. Thirdly, there’s nothing wrong with you. Your body and beliefs have taken a battering.

But you have what it takes to change your stars and make a difference in the World. Because those who haven’t lived it have no clue. It’s up to us who have done the work and fully recovered to pave the way, because we know what they don’t. We have the eyes to see what they don’t. The only professionals to lead the way upward and onward, are us. We’re the experts. We’re not meant to be the fringe-dwellers, outcasts or misfits. We see life differently because we’ve done the depths no-one else has. We’re the hard asses without the gag order. Celebrate that! So grab a cuppa and enjoy a fresh and free starter kit.

Chronic + Courage

You need to remember these 2 words. You’ve been in chronic stress, survival mode, hyper vigilance, burnout, depletion and treading on eggshells with a predator for years, left alone and unsupported by the damaged goods and incompetent system-idiots around you. You’ve long passed the adrenaline and cortisol and running on your adrenal glands into something that hasn’t been named yet. And that requires sheer tenacity and courage on a colossal, gargantuan level. Don’t you ever forget how incredible and Powerful you are. The Heroine-code is in our DNA. Unfathomable by others and completely unquantifiable. Once you deprogram and fully recover, you my lovely, are the one to help pave a better way. It’s my job to show you how.

>> Tips to get the most out of this blog

• Unfortunately, in the beginning stage, you’re going to be under their theories, rules and expectations until you learn to set yourself up for recovery & freedom – hold tight
• Keep in mind this blog is just a starter-kit to get you going
• Take your time to read through it – here’s your first free therapy session!
• Keep in mind ‘Stockholm syndrome’ is bullshit

Have you ever wondered …

who placed the blindfold on Lady Justice with her All Seeing Eyes? Or why a destructive drug was developed by a german pharmacist and named ‘heroin’? Now you do.

The answer is his-story aka patriarchy. Abuse and oppression has been the order of the day for the last 2 millennia – to keep Women down. It’s time to wake up and Wise-up and Honour-up and VIP your ass! Because we’re the savvy women with the Heroine-code in abundance, born to upset the apple cart and pave a better way. It’s in our DNA. And it’s my job to help you do just that. It’s just in my DNA.

A few Universal Facts to Keep in Mind:

• abuse is doled out by the damaged/evil & weak. Read that again.
• It’s cowardice and fuck-up with a mask on.
• It’s the bright bird, dull bird aka Puller Dynamic on steroids.
• there is no such thing as a crime of passion. It’s always a crime of control and destroy.
• you are never ever to blame for their damaged, evil shit. Read that again.
• abuse cycles roll on from one generation to the next until you break the chains.
• the origins of abuse stems from patriarchy, the Witch burning days
• they are the original terrorists.

→ Speaking the truth is not negative! ‘No-one is more hated than s/he who speaks the truth’ ¬ Plato. Massive indicator society is ass about face. Being wide awake on this ship of fools is tedious, mind numbing and not for the faint of heart. I got you.

→ Assertiveness is not anger. Being assertive is still widely misunderstood and frowned upon. Most people cannot handle strong, straight-up women. They’ll take offense because you’re not ‘sugar coating or pandering down or just putting up with’, aka being nice, passive and demure with the people-pleaser disorder. Ugh. Never! I run way too deep for that unconscious crap.

→ Idiots with degrees. Having a degree does not make people clever or better than you. In fact, it just means they’re fluent in the male theories of old. There are millions of people with degrees with dysfunctional, train wreck lives and kids. Some of them left you in harms way.

→ People are a reason, season or a lifetime. They come and go. And as you grow, repair, evolve and upgrade your awareness, well-being and life, so will the people around you change. It’s only natural. When you Know better, you attract better. That’s a good thing.

→ Ghosting and cancel culture is shallow, nasty and dishonourable. It’s hurtful. It’s the ‘jellyback way’ Indicative of gutless and spineless. Do not take offense or feel rejected by people who do this to you. They’re not strong enough or capable enough to be your friend or long term ally. The end.

Being Wide Awake

It’s a curse and a blessing at the same time. Whilst you’ll never really ‘fit in’, over time with recovery you’ll be glad of it and eventually hone your skills – turn your troubles into triumphs – and fly. There are many reasons why we’re wide awake. Too broad a subject to cover here of course, but the main one is this:

us survivors have danced with the devil. Evil with a face. We’ve lived with the unpredictable predator. We’ve walked on eggshells for years. We know what twisted and fucked up is. We’ve seen the lip curl, the snarl, watched the eyes change, heard the venom muttered in our ears. We’ve seen him, the talking serpent, in operation for years. With one eye on us and the other on them, smirking all the while. He knows what he does. The chameleon. We’ve watched the ‘street angel/house devil’ in action. The lies. The fear tactics. The grooming. The voice change and codes. We’ve cleaned up the blood. We’ve developed the coping mechanisms, masks and nervous tics. Pulling hair out strand by strand. Left in harms way by the deaf, dumb, weak & dim witted. Crying on the inside. Praying to just get through this day. Yes my gorgeous one, I see you, I know you, I’ve been you, and I have volumes for you. It’s my honour to serve you. To walk beside you through to the other side as I’ve done myself.

→ we can see the kids/peeps who will not heal in this lifetime. The kids with every disorder under the sun, both in and out of the system, completely dysfunctional, who know what they do – repeating cycles. There’s nothing worse than a village idiot with attitude! They know the system is flawed and failing. They know they’re untouchable in this ignorant time. They know we know. They know we see them. The eyes have it. We see the smirk in their eyes. The soul damage spots on their eyes. They know the system and the staff are blind with their ‘hands tied’ with policy and bureaucratic incompetence. Again, an ass-about-face, self perpetuating system. This paradigm and it’s systems cements in the victim/bully dynamic. The education system is one of the major operant conditioning systems the world over, taking our children away from us, way too early, for way too long, full of parrot fashion learning, his-story and left brain academia. Keeping the good kids passive whilst the dickhead factor walks free. It’s been stifling hearts, minds and souls for centuries completely devoid of Earth & Soul Knowledge. It’s the last place you need to be.

Fact: treating symptoms is futile. And a ‘resilience class’ is a joke – developed by the great unconscious. It’s all part and parcel with the ‘passive and kind’ crew. Superficial, contrived and absolute bollocks.

→ It’s going to take us, with the trained eyes to see, to stamp this out and make the changes needed to shift the status quo. There are too many clueless folks running this show, keeping us down with the gag order all the while. It’s time to turn the tables.

→ Policy. They’re all man made and can be changed in a nano second. Not one policy is set in stone. Written by a male order to suit the current male order. Suppression and stupidity tactics on steroids. Middle finger salute.

→ Success. You’re already a success. You survived. You’re already filled with Riches on the inside. Remember that. Now the next levels require some elbow grease and some polishing whilst you dig for your diamonds. I got you.

→ A massive Mindset and paradigm shift is the answer. A complete Deprogram and Recover on every level is necessary. Lucky for us, it’s transition and revolution time. Turn around bright eyes.

Some Do’s …

• do get off the streets & out of brothels/clubs
• do keep your head down and your shields up
• do use/make the most of services/courses to learn/grow
• do whatever you can to put some healthy things in place
• do rearrange your sleep pattern first & foremost
• do use false positives when necessary to keep going
• do make a pact with yourself to kick the substances
• do sleep once you’re out of danger
• do use daily affirmations + meditations
• do be gentle with yourself
• do trust your instincts
• do it for yourself!

And Dont’s …

• don’t use and abuse services/welfare. It’s there for your supportive starting place
• don’t allow yourself to be caught up in other’s drama/crap
• don’t feel like a failure or compare yourself
• don’t seek a sugar-daddy or ‘prince charming’

And most importantly of all …

Know + Believe that above all else, The Human Spirit is phenomenal!

Just know & trust that if you want something badly enough, you will find a way to achieve it!

Your formidable survivor strength is your exact formidable Warrioress strength. The diamonds you have deep inside to change your stars! And once you put your Mind to it, the Universe shifts + aligns accordingly and the very people + things you need, begin to show up. It’s as old as the hills darling. ‘The Secret’ is a just a new take on a very ancient concept.

Now there are all sorts of pseudo-intellectuals and buzz words floating around, such as: NLP, Behavioural science, Neuroplasticity and Manifesting for example. Do not be bamboozled or intimidated by them. Some folks are just waking up & regurgitating whilst others operate in the mental realm only and some have learnt how to market & sell it. The thing is, us survivors already have it inside us. It’s automatic; it comes with the territory. Truth is, as humans, we all do. You just need help to remember it, repair it, mine it, tweak it and fly, after the therapy is done of course, xo

‘Learn it Monday, sell it Tuesday’ types

→ Beware! Precaution. When it comes to therapeutic work you MUST do the work with highly trained, qualified therapeutic Professionals. Or you’ll end up on dangerous ground. The end. Not negotiable.

→ Avoid anyone out there calling themselves ‘a healer’. They’re simply operating out of their own (unprocessed) stuff. No-one can ‘heal’ you. Nor should they. This is a recovery process that takes years with different professionals and specialties along the way.

¬ Be vigilant. Because everyone’s a 20 minute expert, coach, healer, author or fill-in-the-blank, except they’re NOT. All filling up cyber space, all out for a buck, playing on your hopes, dreams, insecurities and vulnerability. Avoid anyone with a 6 week course, a 1 year apprenticeship, the 20yr old youtuber or influencer. Seek out the Pro’s with years of training, experience and expertise with an ethical business. Training, qualifying and applying to self, over many years, exists for good reason.

For example: it takes 6yrs in class to become an Astrologer. Then add years of specialty plus added years of research, ongoing learning and training (+ lifetimes). And yet some sell themselves after 1 year! Yikes. Massive no, no. Astrology is the study of the Soul and our evolutionary process here on Earth, both individually & collectively – A phenomenal field of study. Only highly trained, qualified Astrologers can work on these very deep levels with people. Same with therapy.

¬ Be very, very selective when seeking and buying, especially online. Any doubt, leave them out. A safe bet is books, Kindle and Podcasts. Broaden your brain & know-how with books to begin with. Get to know peeps online through their ebooks, free and mini offerings first. Remember: these are fantastic small ‘add-ons’ along your recovery journey.

¬ The tail is wagging the dog in this day and age. We live in ‘information age’ with a severe lack of Knowledge. With mass dysfunction and opinions everywhere. Hold tight. Change is nigh and good things are coming. It takes a wise mind to have a still tongue.

¬ Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. Every unconscious fool and their dog has an uneducated, unqualified, opinion these days – the ‘google experts’ – indicative of a society ass about face. Gone are the days when the Wise old souls taught and lead the masses. A wise mind has a still tongue.

“A fool is known by his speech, and a wise man by silence.” ¬ Pythagoras

Ok, imagine this …

You’ve seen it in the movies countless times. (Just watch Braveheart again). It’s a well known fact that king and clergy and their vile foot soldiers have waged unremitting war on the Feminine for the last 2 millennia. They are the original terrorists, rapists and peadophiles. Hideous!! Criminal. Unacceptable.

Imagine our foremothers – the wise women, mothers, maidens and children rounded up. Imagine the terror. The pain. The suffering. The abject fear. The grief. Witnessing women raped, tortured, butchered and burnt at the stake. Our villages, Libraries and Temples burnt to the ground.  And the children raped and enslaved.

Now imagine the protection rackets that kick in. ‘It’s not me it’s her’. The divide and conquer begins. Our beautiful men, out fighting this losing battle. The poverty. The dis-ease. The children, enslaved. Child marriage. Domestic violence. No rights. No help. No healing. No contraception. No vote. Hard times. Hard lives. Hard men and women. The Grand Mockery of Justice. The warped mentality of it all. The narcissist, jekyll and hyde, the wolf in sheep’s clothing. The indifference. The silencing. The shame and blame. Their institutions, asylums, squalor, experiments, disease, diagnosis, labels, pills. Ugh. The Talking Serpents and the mad men at the helm abound – that’s another blog. And then fast forward to today. It’s a very sick society indeed.

Do you see the damage? The wounding? To the Feminine and Masculine. Do you see the dis-ease and violence cycles at work?

Universal facts:

• There is no chemical remedy (injection/pill) for a very Spiritual, Soul-full problem. 
• The body is the Barometer of the Soul.
• Labs and dollars are not the answer – never have been. 
• Deprogram and Recover. It’s an essential healing act for Women.
• Our health and Humanity depends on it.

01. It Takes Courage to Heal

It takes courage to heal. It takes time to heal. It takes reprogramming to heal. It requires professional sessions with the ‘right fit’ peeps. It requires a safe place.

→ It requires the perpetrator to be removed and imprisoned (or fed to the crocs). It requires removal of both Mother AND children – into safety and then relearning.

It requires sleep, exercise and a healthy diet too. But most important of all, you need a hefty dose of Woman-lore to deprogram, recover, and fill you up from the inside out. A Mindset shift. And that takes next level expertise.

The last thing you need is to be lumped in with everyone else or sent to school. Nightmare! You don’t have the bandwidth for it. Survivor mode requires very different things and more fuel/energy. The system is wrong. Hold tight! Yes there’s major unlearning to be done here and a complete overhaul of the system is paramount. It’s a shambles. It’s a mess. And too many are messed up, making more of a mess – yes there’s much work to do here.

In the meantime, let’s get you back on track so changes can be made with the correct people in the correct roles. These de-part-ments are faulty, flawed and failing with the wrong peeps at the helm all regurgitating the male theories. It’s so last century Sistar, leave it there! Have faith girl, we live in very significant, revolutionary times. We cannot continue as we are. 

As you know only too well, we have the wrong people in the wrong places. There are many many well intentioned yet clueless people in the ‘care’ roles just as there are way too many assholes in these roles and establishments too. There are damaged children in adult bodies, young and childless workers too. We can see the peeps who have their hearts in the right place. However, they’re not in the right place. You know they don’t get it. You know instantly. On every level. Don’t waste time changing behaviours, unless you have to. (keep them on their toes)

→ Vital note: You will not unpack this with just anyone or in services! You’ll unpack it in stages over time with the right fit professionals.

A great beginning place is to be your own North Star. And that comes with some hard and fast Golden Rules for your success.

Golden Rules

¬ Call out to every adult for help, again and again until one of them hears/sees you! Most are asleep so holler again and again until the message hits the mark.

¬ Get to a safe place. It’ll be a nightmare so keep to yourself.

¬ Do get this fact in your head: age makes a difference! You cannot beat life experience. Beware older men: they take advantage of youth & immaturity and you cannot spot the master manipulators.

¬ Mind your own business and your manners. Loud, empty, ignorant, (& criminal) vessels are a vexation to the Soul.

¬ Defend yourself. The bitch/dumb-ass factor abounds in these places. There’s nothing worse than a village idiot with attitude! It’s painful, tedious and mind numbing having to deal with it. You don’t need it.

¬ Get to bed by 10-11pm and get up in the morning. You have to reprogram here. Yes you’re used to being hyper vigilant over night because that’s when the ‘street angel-house devil’ usually strikes. Sleep is essential for rest and rejuvenation ensuring you have the energy required for the business of healing. It may take a bit but repetition is key. Services are available during the day so make the most of that. Nothing is achieved overnight except worry and that depletes your energy reserves to keep going.

¬ Don’t be an asshole. Own your shit. And make them own theirs. Genuine victims of abuse conduct themselves differently to those who are not. Don’t buy into the asshole dynamic. You know of whom I speak. (Those playing the system). Especially in residential/foster care. They’ll probably never heal and will always be problematic. Just make a pact now to recover and leave them for dead. They don’t know they don’t know.

¬ The Puller Dynamic – aka the Bright bird, Dull bird syndrome. The bully is a half-wit riddled with massive issues, ignorance and dysfunction who wants to pull you down. All stems from their family of origin and unconscious parenting. They need professional help. Remember: other people’s shit is other people’s shit. It’s never an excuse for abuse. They have to take responsibility for their shit. The end.

¬ Let go of the shame. No-one ever has the right to abuse you. Shame is their stain. It’s the unpleasant self-conscious emotion associated with negative self-evaluation. Meaning: the asshole has purposely made you feel like the asshole. It’s their shit not yours. They’ve dumped their shit on you. Do not give it one more ounce of your precious time, life, energy. NONE! They do not deserve one tiny ounce of you. Shame on them. Create a daily ritual or visualisation to offload shame. Assign it where it belongs. Free yourself of it at all costs. Find the thing that works for you. Visualise your whole internal body with liquid gold, head to foot.

¬ Reclaim your Beliefs, your Body and your Soul. What was done to you was because of them, not you. What was done to your body was not done to your Soul. What was done to your mental and emotional state was not done to your Soul. Your body let you down because it naturally responds. You know it’s wrong despite the body responses. Doesn’t mean your gay. There’s nothing wrong with you. You were a precious and trusting person before hand and will be again. Don’t let this derail you forever. Don’t harm yourself. Nourish and nurture yourself. There’s major unlearning to be done here. Sexual healing will come in your own time. There’s a minefield of misinformation and fucked-up-ness out there so be very. very selective. Keep it pure and safe – get back to Nature. Avoid all and any twisted, low level shite (strippers, s+m/bondage etc). Run for the hills. Contrary to current unconscious opinions, sex work is not ok and completely dishonourable to you and the Feminine. I specialise in and teach the origins and damage of it all. Hold tight.

¬ Reclaim your Self Worth. Worth and esteem are different things. Worth is internal. Esteem is external. Worth is an inner achievement. Esteem is based on goals and external achievements. Work on your self Worth. It’s your job, your Soul/sole response-ability to fill your inner sanctum, your inner sanctuary full to the brim with all things beautiful and awe inspiring. Nature based. Wholesome. It’s always Nature AND Nurture. Do it for yourself. Eat well. Sleep well. Be gentle with yourself. And repeat after me, everyday: ‘Not one drop of my self worth depends on your acceptance of me’.

¬ Get off social media and keep away from the nutters. Seek good, healthy, wholesome, functional people. Read autobiographical books and self help books from peeps at the top of their game. Learn and keep on learning. Seek out Red Indian Philosophy books and teachings – they’re beautiful, functional and Nature based. People in the epitome of health help people step up into the epitome of health.

¬ Use affirmations and guided meditations. Affirmations are free brain-training statements that help to shift your mental focus from the negative – where most of us spend our time – to the positive. Mantras, quotes and affirmations used daily, help shift beliefs and attitudes learned in childhood, quiet your inner critic, your unfounded fears, self doubt and keep your self-talk positive, with small daily doses of belief in yourself. I also use a 10-15min guided meditation as a relax & reset tool whenever I feel the need to pause, clear and get going again. You can find my personal fav: ‘Boho Beautiful Meditation’ here.

¬ ‘Pattern interrupters’ work on shifting self defeating self-talk into more healthy, self appreciative narratives, such as quotes, mantras, meditations and daily affirmations. More in depth work shifting your beliefs, behaviours, attitudes and the ‘internal rule book’ you adopted throughout life from others and experiences, requires a qualified therapeutic professional. Society and parenting is riddled with all sorts of bullshit that conditions kids and their belief systems. Remember: emotions precede your thoughts and actions, not the other way around. Read that again. You need a very savvy professional to work on these deep levels with. Be mindful: they are unicorns. Because most are cookie cutters fluent in the old school texts. This level of work is not currently taught or mainstream yet. Most are still regurgitating male theories of old. It took me 30yrs to research and find what I needed. (Hence I’m creating all of this for you. Stay tuned).

¬ Talking to yourself is not madness! You’re not crazy. Everyone does it but survivors do it more. Because survivors are alone, unprotected, left to bear the brunt with little to no witnesses, surrounded by the inept, left to process and ‘make sense of’, to rationalize and champion ourselves on to make it through another fucking day. Don’t insult us with your resilience bullshit – we operate above and beyond. Everyone needs to feel heard and understood, even by an animal/pet, object, Higher Power or Universal witness if that’s all you have. Sometimes your smarts are rolling around in your head – you don’t have the privilege of a journal or jotting secrets that can be found and used against you.

¬ Get into funny animal videos and Comedians and belly laugh. Yes you’ve been through hell. Yes there are shit people in the world. But for every one of them there’s a hundred of us who are good. We do the right thing. We care. And if there’s one thing I know for sure, you have to look on the bright side of Life too. Because it’ll keep you going so you can come out the other side and turn your life around.

¬ Reset your inner-sense/innocence. There are wounded, damaged goods in families and out there doing hideous, fucked up shit. You’ve experienced some of it. So be vigilant to steer clear of it. Immerse yourself in all good, healthy, pure and beautiful things. Society is full of sham and drudgery but the World is a beautiful place with great people in it. (always turn to nature).

¬ Get physical. Exercise. Swim. Surf. Dance. Join Martial arts class. Kickboxing. Do whichever floats your boat. Try them on for size. But do something. The benefits of exercise and physical outlet is wonderful. You won’t feel like it but do it anyway. You’ll feel the difference and over time, in your time, you’ll schedule it. Spend time in Nature and with animals. Play hopscotch if that’s all you can muster. Skip rope. Move it gal.

¬ Bowen therapy – treat yourself to a quiet hour of self care. Being touched is the last thing you need or want usually. It can take years of processing to recover from. Anything and everything that happens to us is stored in cellular memory too. Here’s a tip that helped me greatly: I treated myself to Shiatsu and Bowen. They both work on Qi meridians and connective tissue. Firstly I had a few Shiatsu sessions that were relaxing and tension releasing. And afterward I had Bowen combined with Emmett technique – something I still treat myself to every quarter. Its my time, it’s a wonderful body tonic, it’s relaxing and it releases knots and tensions like nothing else. It’s my absolute fav. It’s my treat to myself. There’s a wonderful course in London called ‘Free your body, free your voice’. If you can find it, do it. It shows you how everything locks in the body.

Pro tips:

¬ Silence is golden. Find the professional who can hold the space. There’s nothing worse than someone who needs to fill the void with comments, questions and small talk. It’s highly unprofessional! And lacking in boundaries. I go to Bowen for quiet and relaxation – a little piece of heaven in a busy, noisy overcrowded society.

¬ Mind over Matter. Yep, you control your whole in/outcomes in life. But of course, there’s so much more to it than that. (check out Resources below). Our thoughts and experiences lock into and program our bodies. They dictate how we hold ourselves and operate on every level – functional or faulty. It’s belief systems and biochemistry every day of the week. So treat yourself to a musculoskeletal, digestive, endocrine and nervous system reset. The multi-trillion dollar sickness industry will tell you otherwise and dish out pills. There’s no money in teaching you how to heal yourself. There’s no chemical remedy for a soulful, spiritual problem.

¬ Re-permission your anger. What was done to you was wrong on every level. They had no right. And they forfeit their rights the second they did it. The system is wrong. It’s a grand mockery of justice. An archaic system set up by men for men way back then. It’s bullshit. It’s designed to give you a double whammy. Fuck it. Feel it. Injustice is what it is. Facts are facts. But don’t hurt yourself or others. Get smart. Outsmart. Turn that inner rage into out-rage. Turn it into the formidable force it is. And do great things with it. Learn to become a Change Agent.

¬ Vent smart. Grab a friend or professional. Grab a big rubber mallet and some wooden pallets. And then smash them to pieces. And then find an open field. And scream at the top of your lungs, over and over for as long as it takes, weekly, monthly. And use your voice, full range, high to low. Growl. Yell. Swear. It’s really cathartic. Find safe ways to express your strong and suppressed emotions. Smash it girl. And get that inner fortitude of yours up and out!

¬ Avoid the labels and those regurgitating them. (of course not everyone will heal in this lifetime & many suffer from all sorts of difficulties – mentally, physically & emotionally). However, a label is not a life sentence and most are grossly inaccurate. Women’s current mental, emotional and physical ill-health is a bi-product of oppression – patriarchy and their dis-ease and violence cycles. How dare they damage us then label us then medicate us! WTF. Some illness is acute, some chronic, some severe, some needs professional attention stat. You will heal within your capacity to heal. #unlearning: there’s plenty of patriarchy to unlearn and work to be done here. Hold tight.

¬ Avoid relationships! Especially in establishments. Pro tip: damaged goods attract damaged goods. Whilst you are busy with the business of recovery you must go it alone. Self care is not selfish. It’s self-centred! Because you are placing all good things in, on and of yourself in order to heal. When you know better, you Be, Do and Have better which means you’ll attract better. Raise your awareness, calibre and vibration by doing the work. There’s no magic wand. Seek Knowledge and purpose and meaning in life. Reconnect to the Natural World. And over time, attract a mate on a higher level.

¬ Don’t breed! Until you’re better. Damaged boys and girls attract damaged boys and girls. Damaged boys and girls are not parent material. It is highly irresponsible to bring children into the world prior to your recovery on every level. Until you’ve been in professional help and come out the other side you will repeat dysfunctional behaviours and parenting – 100%. You will repeat cycles and damage your children. It’s everyone’s responsibility to end these cycles of abuse, neglect, low income, substance abuse, unwanted pregnancy and children in harms way or in services. Get your ass on contraception! There’s no excuse in this day and age. You know what you went through, yes? So why repeat it? No sugar coating here cupcake. Your mission is to recover, break the chains and the generational/karmic cycle. This shit has to stop!

¬ Don’t sell yourself. Prostitution (strippers, dominatrix, bdsm, s+m bullshit) is a sick patriarchal construct designed to leave women and children destitute and desperate and in harms way. Scumbags dwell in the gutter and are always on look out for damaged goods. It’s one of the ultimate disempowering tactics. After the Witch mania, wounded, abused, motherless, boys and girls were raped and discarded, wounded, starving, homeless, vulnerable and destitute. The word fuck stands for: fornication under command of the king. They legalised the rape of every child over the age of 6. That age changed to 12 in the 16th century. The males who seek out prostitutes, use and abuse women + children, are degenerates from all walks of life from judges to serial rapists and killers. This cycle has to stop! Get off the streets into any help centre available. The system is fundamentally flawed and failing and needs a massive overhaul. But there is help. Don’t stop until someone hears you! Be persistent. Get off the streets. Get out of danger at all costs. Mass indifference and incompetence abounds in society but this will change once you begin to heal and become part of the Change. Labs and dollars are not the answer.

→ Wounded boys and girls grow into wounded men and women. Hence we live in a voyeuristic system rife with abuse, paedophile rings and human trafficking with all manner of fucked-up-ness – Molly’s/drags/ladyboys/serial killers – with every excuse and justification for it all. In a society normalising the abnormal everyday. Gross. All heading down the drain, dumbing everyone down to the lowest common denominator. It’s fucking dangerous and a bi-product of patriarchy. What a fucking mess.

Ask yourself:

Do I deserve better? Will I make a great parent? Does my child or future child deserve a healthy functional safe parent? Shall I take responsibility for my life? To break the chains, the cycle? For my generation and the next? Do I deserve a great man in my life? Shall I be part of change? For a better society? The answers are always yes. So do the work. Or fail the lesson. And be part of the problem. No one has the right to be a shit parent and keep passing abuse on. It’s up to us to shift and uplift society and the Karmic Cycle. Enough is enough. This is not our never ending plight Ladies! Wake up. Nothing will change until you do.

You didn’t make it this far to just make it this far

“You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ¬ Pooh Bear.

Us cool cats who do the work reap our rewards. We’re a formidable force to be reckoned with. We’re the ones who have the strength and in-sight to forge a better way. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. We have a way to go to heal the Feminine. And then look out when healthy, conscious, wise women rise up and kick ass. I can make anyone shit themselves with just a look. My inner ninja gives the message loud and clear – don’t fuck with me. Add some tone and martial arts to the mix – lethal.

There’s a difference between bravado and genuine Feminine Power. Don’t go off half cocked just yet. But do get your inner ninja on for self protection. You have a way to go through the stages – victim > survivor > stronger, smarter > thriver. Then the next level begins > Wiser and then Heroine-code. #Matriarchal Knowledge – level 1. Once you make it out the other side of the Dark Night of the Soul, there’s a clearing. And then you’ll operate on a new unfamiliar level that requires some know-how to navigate. Don’t panic – you’ll keep your shields up – just in a different, better, smarter, way.

02. Estrangement is Freedom!

Not everyone will heal in this lifetime. It’s an individual Soul-gig. It’s a Soul calibre gig. It’s imprinted on the eyes. It’s all part of life, lessons, evolution and Karma. Both individually and collectively. And that goes for our parents and their parents before them. All issues stem from the family of origin. So here’s the deal – you will never, ever, get healthy in a toxic, unconscious family that caused the shit in the first place! Fact. Endex.

‘Narcissists don’t go to therapy, their victims do’.

The very people who caused the shit rarely own their shit. They’re not evolved enough. That’s why they do what they do. They are not experts. Nor your therapists. And it’s really hard for them to take a good hard look at themselves and be accountable. Because we don’t get the family we want, we get the family we need – chosen on Soul level for our Life Lessons and Karma. This is a separate lesson in and of itself – too broad a subject to cover here – one I cover in my Woman-lore Program. In the meantime it’s paramount you remove yourself and find a safe place to begin your recovery work, with professionals along the way.

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Conclusion

Well done for making it this far. Kudos to you for reading all of this. (us deeper cats can always go past the fold). Keep in mind this is just a starter kit. Keep it handy and refer to it often. You’ll find different things at different points along your journey. Please know you’re not alone. You are stronger than you realise. It’s your mission to VIP your ass and kick ass. And the world needs you – the amazing you before all of this. Recovered and healthy – so you can help someone else and be part of the Change.

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To your stellar success! From my heart to yours, take care you. You had the guts to survive, you have the guts to recover!

xx Amanda

Resources

→ I have a really easy resource to figure that out, which you can find at MA/emp.guide

→ Download the ‘Desiderata’ pdf for your wall here

→ You can read more on my Women’s Health Counselling with related blog post here

→ Enroll in my mini course B99, Boundaries for Women here

→ Join my (annual) Woman-lore Program wait list here

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